By: Gary and Donna Berg – Published: October 09, 2016 – Updated: October 17, 2017
If you are going to get a divorce, especially if it is contested, it is crucial to do all possible to split up in advance. The most difficult part of this process is collecting all the required forms, which can be done by two different methods: (1) By mail (and 2) By phone. The first method requires you to send a request to the local Clerks Office to request a divorce. The second method is also supported by many states and is called electronic filing. It is important to note that electronic filing is not the only or even the most suitable option when it comes to filing for divorce. Other options include filing via mail, video or email, handing over documents by another means, etc. There are also many self-help articles and detailed instructions on how to complete all forms correctly.
How to Prepare All the Forms Correctly
Filing for divorce is no easy task, no matter how hard you try. The truth is that even if you are preparing for it with the help of a professional, it will not be able to guarantee that you will not be accused of anything. The only thing you can be sure of is that the divorce will be a traumatic experience for you and your family. Therefore, it is crucial to be able to prepare for it correctly and avoid any unnecessary costs. In this regard, making copies of all the documents and bringing them to the Clerks Office will help you avoid any delays or unwanted burdens.
The Final Thoughts
If you are finally ready to complete the process of the divorce and have collected all the required forms, it is time to leaf through the recommendations. There is still time to go through the entire process on your own, so do not hesitate to seek help from professionals. They will help you complete the papers properly and arrange all the meetings properly so that you can get divorced quickly and cheaply.
How to Deal With the Physical and Emotional Effects of Divorce
In America, every second marriage ends in divorce. Nevertheless, people still feel the emotional and physical impact of divorce quite often. The longer the marriage lasts, the more it hurts for both partners. The divorce process, in addition to being extremely expensive and complicated, is also quite unpopular. There is still a long way to go before you can call yourself a divorcing person in the eyes of your ex. So, it is important to be able to divorce from within.
The problem is that most people are not able to divorce for a long time and then feel the effects on the physical and mental level. Fortunately, there are some things that you can do to stop the damaging effects of divorce in the early stages. The first is to control yourself. The only thing that will help you to survive the emotional impact of divorce is your own will. Effectively, you are saying no to the idea of living in a situation where you are not happy either because of the lack of love or because of the possessions. You are choosing to calm down and let go of your problems. Therefore, doing something like yoga classes or just talking to friends will help you become more confident and easier to deal with depression.
The next step is to control your own destiny. Try to find the best combination of exercises and relaxation methods that will help you deal with your emotions and find the way to happiness. Also, do not forget to tell your children about your decision and do not expect them to change your life for better. You are the only person that needs to suffer and be angry with yourself. Therefore, you should make your children have a good enough time of their own choosing.
Finally, you need to control your behavior. Sure, it may become easier for you to forgive yourself and your ex, but you need to be careful and not let your bad thoughts slide. If you see that your bad behavior has made you start dating someone again, but now you are thinking about a divorce, then you need to think about controlling yourself. Of course, you are not required to forgive yourself. However, you will have to work on that for a long time. Trying to make your ex-spouse happy will do it but does it really make you feel better? It is better to move on and find your own way to happiness.
How to Prevent a Relapse
You cannot be one hundred percent sure whether someone would be able to resist the temptation to start dating again and again. But you certainly can be sure that it will not be you who keeps rebelling. If you recognize that you are not able to forgive yourself, then you need to talk. You need to understand that you need to work on yourself more than you used to. Sure, you may feel bad at the moment and think that you need someone to be your whole life. But the thing is, you need someone to be your whole life. Someone to be strong and to let you go.